Today's topic is subjective and varies from person to person. Recently, I been experiencing an issue to balance work life and personal life. With fast moving world and stressful work life, it is extremely hard to maintain a good personal life. The mood-off at work ruins your after work hours.
Your boss gives you hard time, you go home and get mad at your spouse/girlfriend, kids, parents, friends, yourself. I been through that stage as well and recently found few solutions that really helped me in getting better. I am still not able to balance my work life as well as personal life but in my opinion i am getting much better at it. Few of my suggestions would help you to manage your anger.
1. Keep work stress at work place
Everyday when you leave work place, leave all the stress, grudge, envy, incomplete work in the office. It takes some time to get used to it and many would disagree and claim that it is not applicable to all types of job. But my from my experience and what I have seen, many people including me have started doing it and it works. If you have work phone, switch it off that way you will not have access to phone/emails. If you have work laptop, keep it at work. If you have to finish work, take extra time at office, finish it and then leave. While leaving make sure you are sane and feeling relaxed and not mad at anyone. Whenever you reach home, spend some time with your family, friends and do not even make an effort to think about work. This will help you in building good personal life.
2. Meditate everyday
In many cultures, meditation have a very high importance. It helps you to clear your mind, and explore yourself. If you get up early, try to meditate for atleast 15 mins. Sit quietly with eyes closed, clear your thoughts and explore yourself. Think about how you can be better in managing work. What can you do to make everyone's life easy. What can you do to make people around you happy. If you think you have made some mistakes how can you fix them. Meditation will help you in managing your anger. It will help you in calming yourself. Angry mind always makes hasty decisions. I personally do meditation everyday.
3. Get your heart pumping
Everyday for sometime get yourself exercise such that it will raise your heart beat rate. Increase in heart beat will help you clear up your mind. This way you can take out all of your frustration, anger and stress leaving you with clear and calm head. If you don't have time to exercise, make sure sure you walk from your commuter station to home. If you commute by car, make sure you park your car atleast a mile away from work place. This way you will be able to walk before and after. If you can go for jogging after work that is excellent. Try to be involved in sports like dancing, aerobics, swimming, tennis, squash, soccer etc. Early morning people can try Yoga, aerobics, cardio exercises etc.
4. Have and work on plan B
If your work place is really making you stressed resulting in increased frustration, friction with your personal life, have a plan B ready. Plan B can be like change of job or change of career. Start applying to different jobs, network with people which will help you in getting references, start practicing mock interviews. In case of change of career start attending classes, look for the options, training programs, certifications. Make sure you keep this to yourself and never share it with anyone at workplace.
5. Take a Break
One of the common mistakes that people often do is not taking day-off. Most of the companies often provide with vacation days, medical leaves, personal days where you are entitled to take days off. Taking a day or more off helps you to enjoy and/or give some time to take care of your business. Utilize this time to reduce stress. If you cannot take days off, take a sick day. Once in a while it works. People who are not entitled to take the days off can still take unpaid days off. Even though you dont get paid, it is still worth it. After relaxation, your body and mind is fresh and ready to give more productivity. This will in turn improve your image in manager's eye.
That being said, there are many things that can be done in order to balance work life and personal life. Try to calm your self. Keep in mind that "Bad days will always pass and good days will follow". Do not take any decisions in anger or frustration these decisions will always turn against you.
1. Keep work stress at work place
Everyday when you leave work place, leave all the stress, grudge, envy, incomplete work in the office. It takes some time to get used to it and many would disagree and claim that it is not applicable to all types of job. But my from my experience and what I have seen, many people including me have started doing it and it works. If you have work phone, switch it off that way you will not have access to phone/emails. If you have work laptop, keep it at work. If you have to finish work, take extra time at office, finish it and then leave. While leaving make sure you are sane and feeling relaxed and not mad at anyone. Whenever you reach home, spend some time with your family, friends and do not even make an effort to think about work. This will help you in building good personal life.
2. Meditate everyday
In many cultures, meditation have a very high importance. It helps you to clear your mind, and explore yourself. If you get up early, try to meditate for atleast 15 mins. Sit quietly with eyes closed, clear your thoughts and explore yourself. Think about how you can be better in managing work. What can you do to make everyone's life easy. What can you do to make people around you happy. If you think you have made some mistakes how can you fix them. Meditation will help you in managing your anger. It will help you in calming yourself. Angry mind always makes hasty decisions. I personally do meditation everyday.
3. Get your heart pumping
Everyday for sometime get yourself exercise such that it will raise your heart beat rate. Increase in heart beat will help you clear up your mind. This way you can take out all of your frustration, anger and stress leaving you with clear and calm head. If you don't have time to exercise, make sure sure you walk from your commuter station to home. If you commute by car, make sure you park your car atleast a mile away from work place. This way you will be able to walk before and after. If you can go for jogging after work that is excellent. Try to be involved in sports like dancing, aerobics, swimming, tennis, squash, soccer etc. Early morning people can try Yoga, aerobics, cardio exercises etc.
4. Have and work on plan B
If your work place is really making you stressed resulting in increased frustration, friction with your personal life, have a plan B ready. Plan B can be like change of job or change of career. Start applying to different jobs, network with people which will help you in getting references, start practicing mock interviews. In case of change of career start attending classes, look for the options, training programs, certifications. Make sure you keep this to yourself and never share it with anyone at workplace.
5. Take a Break
One of the common mistakes that people often do is not taking day-off. Most of the companies often provide with vacation days, medical leaves, personal days where you are entitled to take days off. Taking a day or more off helps you to enjoy and/or give some time to take care of your business. Utilize this time to reduce stress. If you cannot take days off, take a sick day. Once in a while it works. People who are not entitled to take the days off can still take unpaid days off. Even though you dont get paid, it is still worth it. After relaxation, your body and mind is fresh and ready to give more productivity. This will in turn improve your image in manager's eye.
That being said, there are many things that can be done in order to balance work life and personal life. Try to calm your self. Keep in mind that "Bad days will always pass and good days will follow". Do not take any decisions in anger or frustration these decisions will always turn against you.
